Irritated!! or something..........

See this picture here? This is how I feel towards my fil right now.

Why?

Because he apparently thinks he knows everything.

The boys had a campout this weekend with their Ranger group. It was a father son campout and since their dad is in Alaska right now they asked Kellys dad to go with them. Okay so you all know that the boys both take different meds right? Well so does my fil. He had the meds and Izzak was instructed to give it to the leader to make sure they got them along with the instructions, the check for the trip and the permission slips. So if they were all in the same bag together why did he get everything but the meds? I'm still trying to figure that out. All I know is that my fil did not give the boys their meds this whole weekend. I know there are varying opinions on med for kids with ADHD but honestly with Joshua we had tried everything before deciding to put him on anything. He has no sense of consequences for one. I'm convinced without them he would have killed himself by now because of the crazy things he does. Also he is actually able to pay attention to teachers and get work done. Something that would have been good for this trip. My fil did not give him those and only comment. "I don't know why he takes those? He doesn't need them" Hmm not what I heard from the other leaders and that fact that Joshua lost his fishing pole, tackle box, Izzaks leatherman tool and several other not so cheap things because he runs from one thing to another and loses things and the tool and the fishing pole where lost to the lake. He was goofing around and the items fell in along with the orrs and almost the kids as well. Thats just one of the stories.

And Izzaks? Was his reflux meds. He already takes a pretty high dose of meds and has needed to have increased and another med added at the moment because his voice is going because he is refluxing so bad. He came home with no voice and I am now having to work on that more. He said he didn't think Izzak really has acid reflux because he ate speggetti and didn't get heartburn. His reflux was diagnosed after several tests to make sure with the top pediatric gastrointerologist in the area. She is very well respected.

So apparently he knows better then the child psychiatrist and pediatritian when it comes to Joshua. Also he seems to know better then tests and a gastrointerologist when it comes to Izzak.
He doesn't see why I have them on anything. He's also the one who tries to insist that Izzak doesn't have learning disabilities! You know if he knows so much about this stuff why does he have his low wage job and not a job as a psychiatrist, pediatrician, gastrointerologist and developmental specialist? I know they all make more money then he does.

So today? I got the boys back on their meds. Joshua had a bad day at school it takes a couple of days for the meds to really kick in. Izzak has no voice and missed school because he is refluxing so bad his voice is gone and that is not a good thing.

I would say something more to him but I don't think it matters. He feels he knows more and actually enjoys the argument no matter how much I try not to make it an argument. It makes me feel that there is no way the boys or girls for that matter can go somewhere with him for more then a couple of hours when they aren't due for any of their medications.

Which makes me the bad guy in everyones opinion. I was told recently that I don't try very hard to get along with my fil's new wife partly because I didn't buy her a mothers day card. Well she isn't my mother, she's not Kellys mother (oh no, don't even mess that up around Kelly! She is not his mother!), and she is not my kids grandmother nor does she act like it. In fact she has been very rude and many times inappropriat when talking to my kids but I'm the one who is not trying to make nice. How is that?

So what is your opinion? Am I getting to upset over this? Am I wrong? What would you do? I mean medications and such are important things, its just being responsible to make sure they have them.