Monday, June 09, 2008

Thanks all and what is going on here.

First of all I wanted to thank everyone for you comments on my last post. It was a hard time for the family. She was young....too young in my opinion but that is not something that is up to us to decide is it? She was only 34 and newly married really just getting started in her life you know? It's just sad. She was only diagnosed in March so it went really quick. They think she had the breast cancer for a couple of years actually and didn't realize it. It had already spread to her liver and her bones when it was found. All I can say is please girls check yourself and have regular exams to check for this please......cancer is just a horrible way to go.....

The whole trip hasn't been horrible though really. Here is a pic from the plane window when we were coming down here.

Those are other islands in Alaska.

The kinda of nice thing about how things happened when they did is that Kelly and I got to spend about a week and a half with just Madison and each other. I know she really enjoyed it and it was nice to be able to just pay attention to her alone at times as well.

We did manage to fit some things in in between going to the hospital everyday and then helping plan and and going to the memorial. One thing we did was go to a new museum they opened since we have been gone that has a lot of old airplanes and automobiles. Kelly really gets into that stuff so we go to go there and he loved it and got to try his camera out a bit.

Madison was actually pretty interested in things as well and really liked looking at things and asking ALOT of questions...:)
We also got to go to some of the old places we used to go on drives to including this rest area we always enjoyed for it's view.

You know the view is always best with a cute 7 year old in it!

We also took her to the trout farm near the dam. She has always liked feeding the fish.

One of the things about Kellys sister is she was very into artsy type things and often handmade all of her gifts something we enjoyed receiving from her and I still have many if not all of the gifts she has made me over the years. When we were planning things for her funeral and memorial the family was on a pretty tight budget. Her husband wasn't working much and didn't make much and her father would have to take out a loan. When looking into a casket they decided to get a fairly plain one and decorate it for her like so many of her gifts to us. She would have thought is was a great idea and one of the things we did was to have her siblings and the kids put there handprints on it before having it taken to the funeral home for her to be put in. I thought it was a bit odd at first but it really came out nice and the girls loved to doing it. I think it was a help for them because they asked a lot of questions later about it.

We did manage to get to go to the fireworks. It was actually really nice since the day before was when she died. It was nice to be able to take our minds off of it for awhile.

Madison of course got her face painted like she did last year....

And we met up with Kellys other sister Gloria

His brother Josh's girls Aidan

and Kayla and the girls got to eat some fair treats

and then we all got to enjoy the fireworks!

Sorry I know the picture isn't very good but it was hard to get them right.

Then last week Madison and I walked with my friend Hannah is the Jr Rose Festival parade and the MOPS (moms with preschoolers) group. Madison thought that was pretty cool since she has seen lots of parades but never actually been in one!

Here she is walking with my friends 3 year old Emily.
Then after that we went to Hannahs mothers house and visited and got to see her little guy Simon. He is almost 2 and has gotten so big since I left!

Anyway I hope to post a little more regularly we have a couple of big things we are going to do before we go back the Alaska in a week and half so I will make sure to post quicker on those so that I don't have to do another huge one like this.

15 people had something to say:

ChrisB said...

I'm glad you managed to to mix in a little bit of pleasure along with all the sadness you must have been feeling.
I rather like the idea of the hand prints on the coffin. It somehow makes the family seem close at the very end.

Hope you enjoy the rest of your trip. We are going away on 19ht ~ meeting up with beccy, and sam will join us for a week, in Portugal.

frannie said...

I am so happy that you have been able to have a little bit of fun thrown in with your trip.

I loved the idea of decorating the coffin. It sounds odd, but it is so sweet and so fitting in this case.

Take care, dear!!

"J" said...

I'm glad to see that you posted! I was wondering how yall were doing! Glad things went okay! Glad yall enjoyed a little fun with all that was going on!

Okay, decorating the coffin is a litttle odd but at the same time I think it's a neat way to give back! I know she was looking down loving every minute of it!!! Bless her!


I also love the pic from the air! Tooo cool!!!

Janice said...

Terri, I am so sorry for the loss of your sister in law.:(

la bellina mammina said...

Terri, I am so sorry to read about your sister in law. I haven't been visiting my blogger friends as I had been travelling and moving house at the same time.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Amy W said...

I will think of Rena when I do the Race for the Cure on Saturday...

Amy W said...

I will think of Rena when I do the Race for the Cure on Saturday...

Steffi said...

I´m glad to hear from you again ! It´s all so sad and I think often to Rena!She was still so young!
Your pictures all very cute!

Kila said...

Wonderful post. So sorry about your SIL. Neat idea about the casket.

Glad to see you are still having some fun!

Anonymous said...

Wow... only 34. That is so very sad.

I'm so sorry for your loss...

Pamela said...

I showed the hubby the part about the handprints. He got misty eyed. As was I.

There is nothing fair about this world -- and my heart aches for her family and the people who loved her.

I was in Portland Friday night the 6th

Motherhood for Dummies said...

so sorry about your sister in law. And sorry for your children that they had to go through that too. glad to see that they are having a little fun during this hard time

elena jane said...

glad to see a post from you....and that you got to spend some nice times in the midst of the sadness. safe travels back to alaska! :)

Debbie said...

Very cool idea about the casket. It SHOULD be what she would have wanted.

I, too, am glad that you were able to have some fun as well. Rena would have wanted that too, I imagine.

philosophywithinpoetry said...

I am so pleased you all had some quality time together back in Oregan and with delightful photos.

Do take care - all of you - always in prayers.